Just a suggestion for practice:
Look for all the ways in your life that you are cared for and adored. When you check out from the grocery and are thanked for your patronage, that is being appreciated. When you pick up your child from school, daycare, or camp and they smile to see you, you are adored. When your husband compliments your newest culinary invention, you are loved and appreciated. Simply witnessing your value in day to day terms is tremendously soul-enriching.
See yourself as a person that is totally deserving of this love, care, and compassion. Each time that you hear a critical little inner voice that tells you that something is wrong with you or your circumstances, stop the voice in mid-whisper and insert very deliberately the following words: "I Am Adorable". No matter what the situation or trial, simply state to yourself that you are adorable and a treasure on earth. No trash-talk allowed!
If you try this for even a few days you likely will be amazed at what happens. What have you got to lose anyway.... you're adorable, right?
With gratitude for Kay Allenbaugh's Chocolate for a Woman's Soul that gave me the idea for this practice. This is such a lovely and inspiring anthology. I highly recommend it!